Confidence at Work: How This Skill 'Kills.'

And I mean 'kill' in the good way.

As in 'She's killing it!"

Some people seem to be born with confidence. 

The ones with the instant friends on the playground in grade school.

The ones who, even if not super popular, always seemed to have it together. 

The guy at work who commands the meeting room when he walks in (without saying a word). 

The director who flawlessly communicates her strategic vision on conference calls. 

Every time. 

The truth is, we're all born with innate talents.  

Then what's the difference between talent and skill? 

It's really the point of origin. 

Talent - you're born with.  It's inherent. 

Skill - originated and fostered at any point in your life.  

And that is GREAT news.

Why?  Because CONFIDENCE, while it can be a talent, is also a skill. 

Meaning: it can be learned.  

But how?

Well, you're here, so you've already taken the first step, consciously or not. 

You've identified that you want or need more confidence in your life, and acting on that teensy desire ("Hmmm...I want/need more confidence") with a tiny action ("Let me search about it/Seek help/Click on this link")is a big first step

GOOD JOB on a great start.

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What's next? 

Well, what are your options? 

Here's a common route people take:

1.  Research and gather additional information (blogs, Pinterest, Google, etc.)

2.  Research and gather more information.

3.  Gather even MORE information, like buying a book on confidence.

4.  Maybe...MAYBE read some of the book.

5.  Then not do much else, except continue to suffer at work from the lack of confidence.

Here's how to have better results

1.  Get something to write with.

2.  Get something to write on.

3.  Write down 5 things you know about confidence at this moment.  No wrong answers here, just get it down

Maybe you just learned one thing in this post:  that confidence is a skill that can be learned.  Include that one - so really, you only need 4 more. 

These can even be one-word answers, like "bold" or "assertive."

4.  Answer this question in your head:  What's ONE SMALL STEP you can take between today and three days from now towards your goal of having more confidence?  A teeny-tiny step?  

5.  Write down the teeny-tiny step.  We'll call it a baby step.  

6.  Open your phone and set a reminder to do this step - either a day or date and time you're going to do it, or a reminder that will spur you to practice.

7.  Save the reminder.

8.  Do it.

There.  Action.  YES!

Doing something in addition to gathering information is what's going to get you to your goal.  

You are doing great.

So which option did you choose?  What's your baby step?