Heidi Lumpkin

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The Easiest Path to #Resilience?

Natural Resilience:  Is it Going to Be a Fantastic Day?

I first learned about resilience from a 10-year-old.

I have a wonderful niece who has become a lovely young woman. 

When she was about 10 years old, I was visiting her and her family in New England and she showed me a dance she’d created to her favorite song.  

The song was Chumbawamba’s “Tubthumping” (why in the world is it named that?).

You've likely heard it:  Tubthumping

“I get knocked down, but I get up again, you’re never gonna keep me down…" is the song's refrain. 

I remember watching her dance and lip-sync to this song, thinking “Wow, what if we all believed THAT when we made mistakes?  What a great way to go through life.”  

And obviously, I never forgot it.
 

#Resilient

I've been considering words that are similar to, or augment 'resilience' lately, since that's what we've been talking about.  #grammargeek

This is one:  resolve.  As in, "She resolved to keep going."

Here's another, more recent song about resolve {and just try to get THIS one out of your head}:

Get Back Up Again

My kid sings this one a lot.  We're working hard to parent him to foster and keep his natural resolve...that resolve, coupled with resiliency, equals life skills. #adulting

And I'M working hard to maintain my resolve as well. To continue to build the skill. 

Resolve: meaning 'to deal with successfully' as in 'resolve doubt' about a situation (from Merriam Webster).  

Building resolve takes intention.  [What is that saying...intention plus attention equals magic?]

Resolve is also defined as 'finding an answer to.'

Isn't that perfect for what we're talking about here when being resilient - tending to recover or adjust easily to misfortune or change.  

I guess you could say you use resolve to become resilient.

More on the 'how to' next time - the exact steps I use personally and with clients.  

Because they work.

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